Bright Copper Kettles

Bob once made a comment about how self-absorbed I am. Implying, I think, that who the hell would want a relationship with someone who obsesses about themselves all the time.

I got a little bit cross with Bob. I pointed out that one of the reasons I am so self-absorbed is that I have no one else in my life to absorb myself with. I also have a large amount of that type of energy to use up.

Another reason is that I am sick of feeling like crap all the time and obviously no one is going to come and save me, so I need to fix things myself. And in order to fix things I need to figure out what is wrong, which means focusing on myself.

I get the impression that people think it is a bad thing to over-analyse and obsess about your problems. It seems that distracting myself by doing hobbies, hanging out with friends, volunteering, keeping busy and basically trying to ignore/bury all these feelings is the socially acceptable "solution." The socially acceptable solution sounds like a time-bomb to me.